Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Why I'm not married...

In the past few months, I have had that most-dreaded question that all singles are faced with throughout their lives.  "Why aren't you married?"  It comes in many varieties, and is usually followed by something along the lines of, "You're so cute! You're such a fun girl!  Those boys are stupid!" etc.

I thought I'd take a few moments to list my Top 10 answers to that question for you in writing.  Because when people ask me to my face, I just put on my biggest/sweetest/fakest smile and say something like, "I just don't know."

The following list is not in any particular order of importance

  1. I'm kind of weird. But I don't really want a weird guy.  I just want a guy who will make me laugh, and a guy who will laugh at my oddities but won't embarrass me in public.  That's hard to find.
  2. My sisters have all married amazing guys! And my brothers are pretty incredible themselves.  That's a lot of pressure on me!
  3. Lots of people take pity on me and try to set me up with anyone male that moves (as opposed to anything male that...doesn't move? Name that movie)  I really appreciate your concern, but a lot of the blind dates I've been on are with shy guys.  When I first meet people, I'm kind of quiet.  Do you think it's a good idea to set up two people who don't talk much?  It just leads to an extremely awkward night!
  4. I can stay as late as I want at work and get everything done. I don't feel stressed that I have to come home and feed some guy.
  5. Once I do get home, I can do whatever I want. Watch two hours of Gilmore Girls re-runs? You bet!
  6. My roommates are too much fun.  Why abandon them?
  7. The ratio of girls to guys around here is something like 5:1 (no official study was done to achieve this ratio...just visual observations).  Odds are not in my favor. Which leads to...
  8. There are way too many other cuter/skinnier girls around.  Which leads to...
  9. I'm not very competitive. If a guy I'm interested in starts showing interest or dating someone else, I don't really fight. I just get over it quickly.  Especially when it's a roommate or good friend who the guy is pursuing.  Part of that reason is because...
  10. I'm not super flirty. Excessively flirty girls drive me crazy, and I think they look like idiots and seem fake. I do not want to be one of those girl.
So there you have it.  Does that answer your question? There are probably more, but this is what just came to mind.

So now I have a favor to ask of you...will you please be considerate of your local, friendly singles?  Most of us want to get married and are working on it.  We still have goals and successful lives.  Please don't tell us that we aren't trying hard enough. It hurts our feelings.


heather said...

Very well said. I felt those same things when I was single. I was weird in my own way and every guy that I would hang out with just didn't get my "weird". Also, I found that most BYU boys became magnets to the blondes. It's hard being a minority.
But that is beside the point. I feel ya and my motto is that when the time is right you will find him. People always do it's just keeping the faith that you will is the hardest part. BUt it will happen. Love ya

Cristi said...

Haha, I loved this post. I just had a similar conversation with my bestest friend who is not yet married. She keeps getting those awkward questions and horrid blind dates as well! I remember coming home for the summer after my freshman year of college and half of the ward asking me why I wasn't married yet. What's with people these days?

Katie said...

Hee hee, that was too funny. I love your list. I seriously hate bad set up's and so many married people think any two people of the opposite sex are a good match. For this reason I try hard not to set people up.

Also, when I read the part about not being competitive, it reminded me of the Bachelor and how if I went on that show I would be voted off in no time because I'm with you on this one, I am not going to compete for the attention of some guy.

Ashley said...

But really, you should try harder.


Do you think I'm funny?!

I LOVE you Shannon. I think all your reasons are great! Very well

By the way, I have someone to set you up with...

Ashley said...


So funny.

Jake and Shell said...

Funny, Shannon...those were all MY reasons...except maybe the weird one. I'm too boring to be weird! ;) And my "friends" definition of "tall" was always WAAAYYYY different than mine! One friend set me up with a guy that was "at LEAST as tall as you, probably taller"...he came up to my chin. I'm just sayin...

There is MUCH to enjoy in single-hood!

PS, we should throw you a shower...

Kristy said...

LOVE this! I totally fill for you. I get that question ALL the time! It stinks. But I'm enjoying the single life and will continue to do so until I find someone good enough for me :)

PS - that movie is Run Away Bride

Heather Whitworth said...

You are too funny! And you are totally right... coming home from work to feed some guy is a royal pain sometimes :) When I was single, bowls of cereal suited me just fine! Now I actually have to cook?

Jackie said...

When I read that first comment I thought it was Heather Whitworth (there are no pics on the main page), but it wasn't!

How do you and Heather W know each other?

WE were in the dorms together.

You are awesome! Don't forget that!

Hang in there girl! Because you are awesome!

Shannon said...

Those crazy guys! What's wrong with them?
Love ya,